Contents
Introduction
This
is the fourth of a Series of pages on the problem of evil in the world.
This one is slightly different!
If
you have read the first three in this Series, it is possible that you
are feeling they were a bit theoretical and perhaps don’t touch your
hurt.
If
you feel that, it is probably because you’ve been hurt, and simply rationalising
something often doesn’t help.
It
can set up a framework of thinking and truth for later on, but if you
are in pain, reason frequently doesn’t touch you.
This
page is specifically for those who have been hurt by evil in this world.
The
nature of your hurt
Because
we live in a Fallen world (a world that turned away from God and turned
to its own devices), we find human beings abusing human beings and generally
“things go wrong”. That’s just what life is like in this world.
Some
reading this page may have suffered personal abuse, whether it be in
the form of violent attack, rape, child 
abuse
or theft, or simply the rejection that comes when a partner leaves.
Others
may have suffered other forms of evil, like illness, infirmity or an
accident which have left you less than the person you might otherwise
be.
Yet
others may have suffered other forms of calamity such as fire, flood
or business collapse, each creating upheaval and chaos.
For
others, the form it will have taken will be the death of a loved one,
either expected or unexpected, but pain racking whatever.
For
you, you are left with a massive hole in your life that is filled with
black anguish.
Whatever
the form the evil took, you are no longer the same person, your feelings
have changed, you feel anguish and perhaps a lot more.
If
you are in that first group and you have suffered personal abuse, in
the short term we feel violated, unclean and fearful.
In
the long term we suffer anxiety, fear, anger and loss of trust.
Where
the crisis was the death of a loved one, there can be pain, anguish,
despair, loneliness, isolation, fear and much more.
Is
there a way out? 
Yes,
but it may take a while. The old adage that time is a healer is true.
Having
said that it’s not just time, but time plus a variety of other things.
In
what follows in this page we’ve included some of those things and simply
being aware of them may help. We hope so.
You
are unique, but the same
The
first thing to realise is that you are you and the way you respond to
what has happened will be different from the way others might have responded,
so don’t take on board lots of “This is how it will be” advice.
You
are you. Don’t be afraid to be you.
The next thing to note is that you are a human being, and lots of other
people have gone through what you’re going through, and there may be
people who can genuinely help you.
You
are not alone. We’re here to help if you want it.
It’s
all right to cry
When
we get hurt physically we suffer physical pain. Even when it’s fairly
minor, we jump up and down and express our feelings.
When we suffer a catastrophe or a crisis, the emotional pain needs to
be expressed even more. 
We
may need to do that in two ways.
First
we may need to cry. It’s all right to cry; in fact it’s often better
that you cry.
At
one point in the Bible it says: weeping may remain for a night,
but rejoicing comes in the morning .
What
it’s saying is that sometimes you need to cry and cry, but there will
be an ending to it.
Second,
we may need to talk out what we’ve been through.
Today
we recognise that someone who has been through a major accident, for
example, can suffer Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
It
simply means that so traumatic was the crisis that we are left with
a whole series of symptoms that upset our lives until they are treated.
Often part of the treatment involves talking out the event.
Therapy
Provision
If
the consequences of the crisis are ongoing (as they usually are), we
need to come to a point of recognising that we need personal help.
Now
the spectrum of provision for this can vary from professional counsellors
to friendship listeners.
If
the trauma we have been through has been very great, it may be that
we need the help of a specialist who mostly deals with this particular
sort of problem.
At the other end of the spectrum you may recognise that you are suffering,
but all you need is a friend to listen to you and to be there for you.
Leaning
on God
Many
people in a crisis find themselves praying, and to their surprise finding
a sense of the presence of God there.
It
may be that you’ve looked at the first three pages and rejected the
thought of God. You’ve had negative thoughts about Him.
May
we make one of two comments that might help you in this respect:
1.
God didn’t send the crisis 
The
crisis may have been caused by our own foolishness (for which we feel
guilty), but more probably by someone else’s foolishness or unpleasantness
(to put it gently and mildly), or simply because things happen and go
wrong.
It
wasn’t God!
How
do we know? Jesus Christ was the expression of God in the
flesh.
Wherever
Jesus went he worked against pain, worked against evil and grieved over
the pain people suffered.
God
is here to help, not condemn (see the Series “God’s Love for You”)
2.
Don’t try to rationalise it
So
often, as we go over the thing again and again in our minds we think,
"What if…" or !If only I’d…." but your biggest
question may be "Why me?"
There
are often no answers to that one. We just happened
to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. It wasn’t anyone’s
fault, it just happened.
You
can’t undo the past but you can get help about how you think and feel
about it now. We say again, by the example of Jesus Christ, God is there
to help you, not condemn you. He’s there to pick you up,
not put you down.
3.
God understands how you feel
God
stepped into our human experience in the form of the human man,
Jesus Christ, and went through what we go through. He suffered
tiredness and exhaustion, pain and rejection.
The
Cross at Calvary was unjustified and unwarranted. There Christ
suffered the most excruciating physical and emotional pain. He
knows how you feel, and He’s for you.
4.
Recognise Anger
You
may feel angry with God or with another person.
God
isn’t put off by your anger, but you do need to deal with it.
Unresolved
anger grows and grows and turns into bitterness, which in turn has a
variety of negative workings in us.
You
may say it is natural and right to feel angry, and it may be, but until
it is resolved in a proper way we need help to deal with it, because
until we do it will continue to harm us.
5.
God loves us
In
the midst of your pain you probably feel God is at the opposite end
of the Universe - but He’s not, He’s there for you.
We
can’t rationalise this or explain it when we’re in hurt, but He is there,
as many others would testify to, from their experiences.
You
could risk this - you could talk to Him and tell Him honestly what you
feel - don’t worry He already knows but you need to tell Him.
You could ask for His help while you’re at it - what can you lose?
In
Conclusion
There
are times when this world is nasty - and that is the understatement
of the year!
It
may be people but it can be just things 'going wrong', whether it’s
our bodies getting sick, planes falling out of the sky or an excess
of rain causing flooding.
While
God allows such things, He isn’t happy with them and, with our co-operation,
is there working against them.
We
can either struggle against them on our own, or we can go to Him for
help, which may come directly from Him or indirectly through other people.
Evil
exists because mankind chose to do without God, but God is still on
our case and is there seeking to draw us back into a place where we
can receive His love and His power again.
We’re
aware that a series of pages can hardly do justice to this enormous
subject, but we hope that some of the things here may be of help to
you. If you’re still suffering, please don’t put up with it any longer
- go for help.
Can
we help?
This page is one of a series. The four in this series
are:
1.
What is Evil?
2.
Why doesn't God do something?
3.
A Workable Solution
4.
On the Receiving End of Evil
Perhaps you would like to talk further about these things or even have
someone pray with you. If that is so then the leaders of Rochford Community
Church are available to help you.
Remember, if you want to e-mail Tony, it's tony.thomas@rochfordcc.co.uk
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